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Terminology / Language We Use - As you may already be aware in the last two decades the language that is used when a baby dies seems to be far from the reality of what you, the families have lived through. We also believe it is not fitting with decades to which your babies died or were stillborn.
Below are a few examples of this..
- Born Sleeping - A baby is stillborn and not born sleeping or any other variation of this phrase (babies are not born asleep), they were stillborn of born dead or born and died.
- Loss /Lose/Lost - You did not lose / lost your baby this statement gives the impression that you were careless with your baby. We know not one of you was careless with your baby. You lose your keys, or a game, you do not lose a baby. We know your babies were wanted and loved baby’s, they died they were not lost.
The word Loss in particular put us in a bit of a quadrium, as although we don’t like the word loss, there are campaigns i.e., Babyloss awareness week, which use the word loss in the title. We do love the campaign, and we believe that the benefits to bereaved families out ways the fact that we don’t like the word loss. As you will see we have included a piece about Babyloss awareness further along in this newsletter and will be offering an opportunity to include your baby’s name in an online remembrance book on Facebook. Otherwise we really are not encouraging the use of the word loss
- Closure – The word closure means it’s finished, it done, it’s over, we don’t believe that finding your baby’s resting place or not finding your baby’s resting place gives closure and the fact that you are reading this tells us that to be the case. We believe that finding out what happened to your baby gives you answers to the unanswered, the truth, peace, and a chance to acknowledge your baby’s brief life. It certainly does not give closure, as we know you will never stop missing, loving, and remembering your baby
This charity now has a policy and that is that we use the correct terminology / language for the above. We would like to ask that you respect this particularly in regard to our new Facebook page.
If you would like a further explanation or discuss any of this, please feel free to contact me.